Many people assume that since anger is a negative emotion it can't be good for you. Many people believe that the correct method to deal with other people is to be always chirpy, happy and positive. This would work, and should work, well at least on paper anyhow. From my experience however, it doesn't. It doesn't pay to be chirpy, happy person 100% of the time. What happens is people tend to think, "Hmm, this guys a nice person. I'm sure he wouldn't mind it....." fill in the blank with any number of mundane task totally unrelated to your field of experience and responsibility.
The way to counter this is to appear friendly on the out-set but at the same time seem capable to turn mood on the dime when necessary. After all anger is an emotion, and as they say it's important to be able to totally express your emotions and your personality in order to lead a happy and eventful life.
One of the first things i learnt during my working life as a manager was that a good angry smile goes a whole lot further then just a glare. A glare just states," I am pissed." an angry smile says," I am SO pissed, I think i just may eat your children and wig out on you." A smile as it is takes less energy to come up with then a frown. Plus it makes people want to say something, anything to you to cool you down or generally divert your attention away from them when done correctly. This method works well up and down your company's hierarchy as it could also be taken as an intense smile yet still has that all important intimidation factor.
What's important though, is to not let things brew. Brewing and getting angry are two different things. Getting angry is a bushfire, happens suddenly, is highly focused and burns out quickly. Brewing on the other hand, is much like a volcano. Pressures build up until critical mass, then someone forgets to return your pencil sharpener, then you go postal on whomevers within immediate reach. There's no point in this, you might as well just get angry at people who deserves your wrath.
Finally, anger is therapeutic: as the saying goes, "Better out then in." When you blow up, you blow out. You get a clear and apparent way to focus all your negativity on someone who really has been asking for it. Anger gets people to do things for you they wouldn't otherwise. Anger is a good motivator. Used wisely anger is an important management tool just like any other tool. You see "Guns don't kill people, people kill people!" ;-p
The way to counter this is to appear friendly on the out-set but at the same time seem capable to turn mood on the dime when necessary. After all anger is an emotion, and as they say it's important to be able to totally express your emotions and your personality in order to lead a happy and eventful life.
One of the first things i learnt during my working life as a manager was that a good angry smile goes a whole lot further then just a glare. A glare just states," I am pissed." an angry smile says," I am SO pissed, I think i just may eat your children and wig out on you." A smile as it is takes less energy to come up with then a frown. Plus it makes people want to say something, anything to you to cool you down or generally divert your attention away from them when done correctly. This method works well up and down your company's hierarchy as it could also be taken as an intense smile yet still has that all important intimidation factor.
What's important though, is to not let things brew. Brewing and getting angry are two different things. Getting angry is a bushfire, happens suddenly, is highly focused and burns out quickly. Brewing on the other hand, is much like a volcano. Pressures build up until critical mass, then someone forgets to return your pencil sharpener, then you go postal on whomevers within immediate reach. There's no point in this, you might as well just get angry at people who deserves your wrath.
Finally, anger is therapeutic: as the saying goes, "Better out then in." When you blow up, you blow out. You get a clear and apparent way to focus all your negativity on someone who really has been asking for it. Anger gets people to do things for you they wouldn't otherwise. Anger is a good motivator. Used wisely anger is an important management tool just like any other tool. You see "Guns don't kill people, people kill people!" ;-p
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No. I Disagreee. Must be in control at all times. Anger, Bad. Happy, good.. and if you disagree well YOU CAN JUST F**K OFF!!!
There ya go... express yourself monkey... Let lose and FEEL it, indulge in it, exult in it! ;-p