There comes a point in every ones life when you have to make a hard decision.
Usually, the outcome of this decision affects more than just yourself, or if its just you, it affects you profoundly. These decisions are bitter and difficult to even think about let alone commit to. You find your self struggling to make a choice when both options seem so scary and unerving to you, that you don't even know where to begin. You fear that at a future date you will deeply regret what you've done, that choice you have made. Especially, if it involves another person. What do you do when you don't know what you're supposed to do? What do you do when you fear you will hurt, or be hurt regardless of the options? Toss a coin? Pray to god for an answer? You torture yourself senseless over the fact, thinking, "what of this, what of that?" not knowing exactly which path to follow.
Karl Kraus, an old Austrian journalist once said, "A weak man has doubts before a decision, a strong man has doubts afterwards." How easy life would be if everyone was as single-mindedly objective as Mr. Kraus. Saying that, we can learn from Mr. Kraus. A decision has to be viewed in a balanced manner, weighing both the pros and cons, when you find the most ideal solution, make the decision, then worry about the consequences later. It is pointless to worry, if you do not execute. Most difficult decisions have to be taken with a pinch of faith and a taste bitterness. You have to swallow that bitter pill to make things right.
Saying all this, the worst possible decision a person could ever have to make, are those of the heart. For eventhough you know what you are doing is best for everyone involved, it still hurts. There is no pain greater than knowingly causing another person pain, and regretting not being able to stop it. I hurt because I know I have hurt and truly regret the fact that I have. Some decisions aren't easy, but they still have to be made.
Usually, the outcome of this decision affects more than just yourself, or if its just you, it affects you profoundly. These decisions are bitter and difficult to even think about let alone commit to. You find your self struggling to make a choice when both options seem so scary and unerving to you, that you don't even know where to begin. You fear that at a future date you will deeply regret what you've done, that choice you have made. Especially, if it involves another person. What do you do when you don't know what you're supposed to do? What do you do when you fear you will hurt, or be hurt regardless of the options? Toss a coin? Pray to god for an answer? You torture yourself senseless over the fact, thinking, "what of this, what of that?" not knowing exactly which path to follow.
Karl Kraus, an old Austrian journalist once said, "A weak man has doubts before a decision, a strong man has doubts afterwards." How easy life would be if everyone was as single-mindedly objective as Mr. Kraus. Saying that, we can learn from Mr. Kraus. A decision has to be viewed in a balanced manner, weighing both the pros and cons, when you find the most ideal solution, make the decision, then worry about the consequences later. It is pointless to worry, if you do not execute. Most difficult decisions have to be taken with a pinch of faith and a taste bitterness. You have to swallow that bitter pill to make things right.
Saying all this, the worst possible decision a person could ever have to make, are those of the heart. For eventhough you know what you are doing is best for everyone involved, it still hurts. There is no pain greater than knowingly causing another person pain, and regretting not being able to stop it. I hurt because I know I have hurt and truly regret the fact that I have. Some decisions aren't easy, but they still have to be made.
"My basic principle is that you don't make decisions because they are easy; you don't make them because they are cheap; you don't make them because they're popular; you make them because they're right."
Theodore Hesburgh
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Don't worry. Sometimes you just gotta do what needs to be done. Hang in there... -Juanita-