It has always been an issue for me with all the girls I've been going out with about me not talking to them enough on the phone. Why do women have this fixation on talking with their men on the phone I've pondered. I've been told that all they really want is to know that you're thinking of them and that their on your mind and that's all they want to know, but I've never had a conversation on the phone with woman before that's gone along the lines of:-
Him : Hi there, I'm thinking of you..
Her : Oh that's nice, so am I...
Him : Ok then, love you and talk to you later..
Her : Love you to, bye...
Never-ever have i had a conversation like this with a woman, if i tried I'd get into to trouble. Then it would be all, "Oh you don't talk to me like you used to..." or "Something has changed..." then they'd get all pissy on you and angry at your inattentiveness. You try to explain that you don't have anything to talk about then your accused of not opening up. When you really really don't have time for a pondering beat around the bush 20 minute conversation then your self-centred and uncarring. A man can never win.
With my two best friends, both guys, my telephone conversations with them will never exceed 5 minutes unless there is something that urgently needs to be discussed at that point in time. Fair enough, I realise that women use talking as a form of socialising, but men generally use it as a tool to achieve or accomplish something so when suddenly you have no idea why your talking or what your trying to achieve with the conversation it can get quite perplexing for a guy.
Sometimes, a guy just doesn't want to talk. The last thing he wants to do is open up and bare his soul when he's upset. At times a man may clam up because he doesn't want to pointlessly lose his temper at the ones he loves the most. Women on the other hand, like to talk about how they feel about their problems, as talking about it acts as a salve i suppose. For men on the other hand, talking about problem you have no control over forces you to re-live to situation all over again and has a tendency to get you all worked up; well that's how it is for me anyway.
Well i suppose the point I'm trying to make is that men and women approach communication differently. We men will always love the women of our lives regardless of how many times we talk to them. However, women seem to believe that this is not possible. The logic seems a bit absurd but this is how i view it anyway:-
She: "I'm thinking about you right now but you haven't called me yet, so this must mean you don't love me."
This sentiment 99.9999% of the time is just soooooooo not true, believe me...
To finish off, I realise that I've more or less gotten myself in deep doo-doo with most of the women reading this ('specially the one I'm dating) and I'm glad to say that I have a pseudonym to protect myself with from most of you. Please look after your men and love them. We're not like you and we do not communicate like you, at times we have no idea what you're going on about or why your getting so angry at us. I'm sure sometimes you feel the same way to, so the bottom line is to not try and understand our differences, but just simply to accept the fact that we are.
Thank you......
With my two best friends, both guys, my telephone conversations with them will never exceed 5 minutes unless there is something that urgently needs to be discussed at that point in time. Fair enough, I realise that women use talking as a form of socialising, but men generally use it as a tool to achieve or accomplish something so when suddenly you have no idea why your talking or what your trying to achieve with the conversation it can get quite perplexing for a guy.
Sometimes, a guy just doesn't want to talk. The last thing he wants to do is open up and bare his soul when he's upset. At times a man may clam up because he doesn't want to pointlessly lose his temper at the ones he loves the most. Women on the other hand, like to talk about how they feel about their problems, as talking about it acts as a salve i suppose. For men on the other hand, talking about problem you have no control over forces you to re-live to situation all over again and has a tendency to get you all worked up; well that's how it is for me anyway.
Well i suppose the point I'm trying to make is that men and women approach communication differently. We men will always love the women of our lives regardless of how many times we talk to them. However, women seem to believe that this is not possible. The logic seems a bit absurd but this is how i view it anyway:-
She: "I'm thinking about you right now but you haven't called me yet, so this must mean you don't love me."
This sentiment 99.9999% of the time is just soooooooo not true, believe me...
To finish off, I realise that I've more or less gotten myself in deep doo-doo with most of the women reading this ('specially the one I'm dating) and I'm glad to say that I have a pseudonym to protect myself with from most of you. Please look after your men and love them. We're not like you and we do not communicate like you, at times we have no idea what you're going on about or why your getting so angry at us. I'm sure sometimes you feel the same way to, so the bottom line is to not try and understand our differences, but just simply to accept the fact that we are.
Thank you......
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