The Urbаn Prophet™ 5.0

You know, I've been thinking... The bulk of my problems of late seem to stem mostly from my inability to say "no" and my ingrained tendency to try and make other people happy, usually at the cost of my own happiness. I notice I get placed in weird situations where I really don't care about what the outcome is but I'm there because those two problems I have stated above... I don't know how many boring-ass events I've had to attend because I couldn't say no... Or sometimes I've been pressured into making potentially life changing decisions when I really felt deep down inside that it was irrelevant... Worst of all, there have been times when I've been forced into situations where I've had to do things which went against my beliefs, morals or conscience...

My opinion is that, its ok to make people happy, but you have to make sure that the decision you made is something you can live with afterwards. Not being able to say no to people more or less means you'll be handing over the reins to somebody else to run your life for you. It's your life so you have to take full responsibility for it, if you just float through life letting people make you're decisions for you, you would never be in control of your own life ever...

For most people, finding the gall to stand up and go "na-ah, not gonna.." to others just doesn't come naturally. Most of us are brought up in atmosphere where conformity is key to survival. growing up your parents tell you what to do, when you you're old enough to go to school then it's your teacher and classmates, then your boss, then your spouse, et hoc genus omne. At every point in your life, someone has something to say about what you should be doing, what you are doing and how you are doing it. The onus is on you though, to decide whether you want to take their point of view into consideration.

I feel that since you only have one life (well, even if you believe in reincarnation or an after-life or whatever floats your boat, the only thing you can be 100% certain off is the life your living now) you have to make sure you enjoy it as much as you can, and living at the beck and call of everyone else is not going to allow you to do so. The average life span is only 70yrs guy, 75 for girls, some places its even less then that, and to be honest, that's actually not that long so you gotta make sure that you are happy with the life your leading because you've only got one chance. Mind you, there are many ways find joy in life, it could be children, it could be career, traveling, it's whatever you find important to you that gives you piece of mind and puts a smile on your face. I feel that its important the you be strong enough to say no when it has to be said, your time is precious and you afford to be giving it away willy-nilly...